LOVE UPFRONT

Hello readers  welcome to this series of  talking about and understanding SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, MARRIAGE, LOVEMAKING,  MONEY AND LIFE.

Yes, I know  that this subject matter is not to popular with the general public,
 but these are the very things that get in the way of your true happiness. Yes I said your true happiness, singular.


Now, some of us may be married, some single , some don't know what they are right now, both men and woman married or not playing the field, you know what I mean, its like taking a new car out for a test drive every now a again to see how she handles or how he shifts gears.

So many of us treat SEX, MARRIAGE, RELATIONSHIPS, LOVEMAKING, MONEY AND LIFE as if you can keep it separate from each other.

What I would like to share is that a person needs to be whole and true to self first,
 this means that we all need to understand ourselves enough to know our likes, dislikes, faults, and other short comings, Woman seem to be more in touch with themselves at an earlier age then men.

My hope in sharing this information is that it will help open the eyes of our young people that read this post; and perhaps maybe open the eyes of people that are in the thick of MARRIAGE that also read this post.

Hey don't let me stop you from living the way you want to live, I'm all about FREEDOM and LIVING LIFE
the way you want..

If you are look for a better relationship or marriage, I'd like to give some ideas and encourage you to think NU THOUGHTS, about the way you perceive things in your relationships.

One thing we need to know is that MARRIAGE AND RELATIONSHIPS are CORE to the rest of our life.

We cannot neglect the fact that most of us are very short sighted when we attempt to enlarge our life by including the life of another person and that person usually  is the one you LOVE or think you LOVE.

 Maybe you know you are not ready for MARRIAGE but would like to be in a RELATIONSHIP, or what ever the case maybe.

May I ask you a question?  As far as wanting a RELATIONSHIP do you really think you would be a benefit to the LIFE of that other person, lets say you start dating and after awhile you see that this girl deserves more then you can give her, as you can see I'm talking about a commitment not just talking about a wham bam type of relationship, we will talk about wham bam stuff later.

Would you be strong enough to tell that woman you are not right for her right now and that you would just ruin her life, explaining the reasons why you feel this way and start talking about real life issues that can currently and potentially affect your lives in a negative way. You see this understanding of  self-awareness is also an act of LOVE.

It is seldom easy to deal with relationships because most people are for a lack of a better word broken in some ways, by that I mean there could be hidden scares of abuse or past hurts that can cause a person to act or behave in a negative way it doesn't at all mean that they are a bad people ,its just means that they will need healing for that in order to be a whole person.

See for most people they date a while fall in LOVE get MARRIED at a young age and spend the rest of their lives reacting to everything that comes up in the MARRIAGE the sad thing is that people have been living like this for years.

My hope is that individuals and couples would approach relationships with a STRONGER UPFRONT LOVE that will put the desires of others before the thoughts of good intentions that we assume is good enough for others, reducing the cycle of a REACTIVE RELATIONSHIP to a PROACTIVE RELATIONSHIP.

Well this is all for today, I will see you tomorrow leaving you with a  NU THOUGHT, OF UPFRONT LOVE.

I wish the best for all of you, love JD

If any of my readers have any questions feel free to comment, I'm hear for you,
and I'm sorry if I stepped on any ones feelings today. See ya tomorrow!!