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Feeling Alone in marriage.


Its sad but true many a men and women feel alone in marriage for many  many  reasons some reasons may be big and over bearing but most of the time many are so small but here's the problem the smallest of issues are the one's that if left alone and unsolved can lead to serious neglect and separation.

When you have a plan to keep things open in an upfront love kind of way there will be no need to feel alone.

Over time its the small issue's that cause the most damage to a relationship and here's why we don't mention it we just tend to stuff it down or sweep it under the rug so to speak but as soon as someone in the relationship has had enough sweeping it under the rug they explode because now small issues get big and big issue's get huge.

The best thing to do in a relationship to solve these small issue's is to constantly talk about them as soon as you get your feeling hurt your you thing your partner isn't honoring you you need to say something.


Feeling alone will have a negative  impact on your health and self image and it always plays tricks on your mind.


Some people including myself  think its a waste of time talking about how I felt about a statement that was said or why I should say something about how my needs aren't being met and that's the area we all need to approach with an upfront LOVE.

This is where you can start to feel alone and rejected, if you and your partner do not have a plan or agreement that's if you feel anything is not right no matter what it is that person has the open door to speak of what ever is concerning them.

Being alone or feeling alone are all results of choice's we make, I heard this quote from a Pastor once and he said this. IF YOU FAIL TO PLAN, YOU ARE UNKNOWINGLY PLANNING TO FAIL.

Do not let anything go on unresolved because what happens is we automatically start to harbor bad feeling and resentment against a person place or thing and the sad thing is that some of the issues are preconceived ideas that have nothing to do with what just happened in front of you.

The best thing is to always have a planned agreement in your relationship to always feel free to speak what ever is on your heart and especially what's grieving your heart.

You are important, you are worth it, your relationship is worth saving, we all need a plan to succeed so that we will never feel alone even when we are by ourselves. 

Most men have a hard time with this and just stuff away all the seemingly small things aside, but believe it or not it robs your wife of truly seeing you as a caring person a person that has feelings emotions and ideas of how you perceive things should be in a marriage.

Yes women, men also feel alone at times, yes we do like to be included but for some reason we have a harder time understanding it ourselves.

All to often men and women withdrew from each other for the same reasons, but if you start with a plan to cut off your preconceived ideas by agreeing to not let anything slide past you it will have a great positive effect on your relationship making you not feel alone any longer then need be.

So lets plan on never being alone especially in our thoughts toward one another by keeping our communication lines open full of LOVE AND HONOR TOWARDS EACH OTHER.

Thanks for reading Wade Kapaona.