Christian marriages

Hello friends, lets talk about christian marriages.

Today I spoke to a person that knows me pretty well and they  felt that my blog should have more of a christian profile to it. While I was trying to keep this blog free of christian influence there are things happening in the christian arena as far as relationships or marriages are concerned that need a NU Thought.

First of all I will say that when it comes to marriage christian or not people are people and we can all use a better understanding of ourselves and the things we tend to bring into our marriages knowing or unknowing.

We all need the freedom to grow in life, in marriage and in everything else we do. One of the things that I've observed in christian marriages is that they are no different then those of  non-christian marriages. .

Now, You might say well it should be different or you might say why should it be different, but the fact is that it shouldn't be different we all should enjoy great marriages and relationships full of fun and joy no matter what we call ourselves.

But from my own observation there are a lot of christian marriages that lack the full expression of life that GOD intended for all to have not just the Christians but all marriage relationships.

One area that the Christians marriage suffers in is the area of not feeling free enough to question each other and ask is this really all that our marriage is to be. Who do we talk to if we feel this way, Christians have stuffed many true feelings aside and say nothing only to have a unanswered question of, is this all there is to this thing I devoted myself to, this great thing called marriage.    It seems more like a mirage now that I'm here Right?

But the thing is people get stuck in a certain mind set some religious some not, these beliefs that we hold on to could be the very thing that hinder your joy and passion in our relationships, and we always need to question those joy stealing beliefs.

And marriages today are just like this story. The story begins at a big family gathering which is happening at the granddaughters  house for thanksgiving, and the granddaughter is preparing the favorite family ham the way her mom did which was passed down from great grandmoms tradition, so the granddaughter does the same thing she saw her mom do when it came to cooking the ham but she ask her mom, mom why do we cut the ends of the ham off before we cook it. her mom says that's the way your grandmom prepared it. yeah but why, mom says I don't know lets ask grandmom,.grandmom says I don't know why you do it that way, I cut the ends off the ham because back then we didn't have a pan big enough for the ham to fit in.

Traditions and beliefs have a tendency to make us do things that are otherwise unnecessary or worst crippling to our relationships, why do we do the things we do?, why do we think the things we think?.
no body wants to be wrong about something,  I would rather be found wrong and fix the problem then to

think I'm right and live in a mediocre Christian marriage any day.

It always pleases me to see older Christian couples receive  break thought in their marriage after suffering for so long over preconceived ideas of how life is supposed to be in a marriage.